Many people are forced into hard situations where they feel torn apart by competing pressures. Friends of mine, and myself at times, have been directly affected by the way work, especially in some industries, leaves you far from looked after. Meanwhile you may have to look after others in less than ideal circumstances not of your own choosing. In principle these situations ought to force us together but so often we are dragged away or worse, into direct conflict with one another. We are confronted with burdens outside our control and previous iterations of this that manifest as complications inside ourselves, which need to be unpicked. Yet despite all of this we repeatedly make and refresh connections with others without knowing all that they have and are going through. The outcomes are never automatic.